Interview with Victoria Rose

• How long have you been working as an escort?
  
  Four years.
   
  
  
• When and how did you become an escort? What motivated you to start doing it? What was your background before this work?
  
  I began working as an independent escort in September 2004 (I also worked for an agency for 3 months in 1999 when I was between jobs and answered an ad in the "Help Wanted" column of the Leader Post classifieds while looking for work). Though I am university-educated, my regular employment doesn't provide adequate compensation to meet all of my expenses.
   
  
  
• Do you like being an escort? What do you enjoy most in it? What is important and have value for you in it?
  
  Of course I like it! I wouldn't do it otherwise. I like the independence, the control, choosing my own hours, the compliments, being able to enjoy physical pleasure without being tied down to a man who is over-critical or controlling.
   
  
  
• What don't you like about being an escort?
  
  1. The e-mail fraud messages I receive from would-be clients.
  
  2. Clients trying to turn their professional relationship with me into a personal one, because I'm not looking for that. I've learned the hard way that even "going for coffee" off the clock can eventually dissolve the best professional relationship and I've lost a couple of good clients that way.
  
  3. As for a personal relationship, if I wanted one, I wouldn't be doing this.
   
  
  
• What makes you notable among other providers? What exactly, you believe, you're good at? What makes your service unique? What is your favorite kind of service?
  
  I'm very sensuous, giving, gentle, easy to get along with and very down-to-earth. I also enjoy my work and it shows.
  
  I don't know that I have a favourite kind of service—I tend to enjoy what is happening in the moment. I've been told that I "taste good" by many clients, so I guess that must be true. I've also been told by a few that I have a very articulate tongue in reference to my CBJ, which I try to break up with a few little tricks, rather than the standard in-out movement so my jaw doesn't cramp, prolonging my endurance. Some gentlemen really enjoy my "oral gymnastics."
   
  
  
• How do you prefer a client to make an appointment? What information is important for you? Is screening required before the appointment?
  
  I prefer to make appointments by e-mail and to exchange some messages first so I get more of a feel for the kind of person I'm dealing with.
  
  Information that's important to me is their previous experience with the escorting business (i.e. is this their first time, do they have a lot of experience with escorts or only a little?).
  
  I also prefer that prospective clients do not ask me to be explicit in my online and telephone communications with them (those who are savvy in this industry know that this is because providers fear LE masquerading as clients).
   
  
  
• What types of clients you deny to meet? Are there any restrictions?
  
  Clients who come across as intoxicated, crude/vulgar, rude, too young, and/or who clearly haven't read my ad thoroughly (e.g. they ask questions that are clearly answered in my ad or interview) and have no respect and/or understanding for what my service is about, give me the wrong "vibe" somewhere in the process of setting things up (e.g. it becomes clear that we're not compatible as a client and escort).
  
  I'm also invariably irritated by e-mails from those who send requests/offers from foreign contries (which is always very obvious by the broken English in their writing) to meet me at some future date and say they will send a cheque. Anyone "in the know" is well aware that this is a fraud scheme and mine is a cash-only business. I don't provide a mailing address to anyone.
   
  
  
• Do you have regular client assignments? How do you choose whom you wish to see on this basis?
  
  Yes. If we're comfortable with each other and the chemistry works well.
   
  
  
• When you visit a client, what kind of environment do you expect a client to provide?
  
  Clean, comfortable, discreet.
  
  And if there's any chance his significant other might show up, I won't! Been there, done that—hiding under the bed, terrified I might get screamed at, smacked, get my hair pulled out, or get arrested is not my idea of a fun time or a way to make money.
   
  
  
• Do you have any particular requirements regarding hygiene? What are the guidelines that your client should follow?
  
  He is showered, teeth brushed, if uncircumcised he has cleaned under the foreskin, clothes must be clean, etc. I expect a client to give at least as much regard to his own hygiene as I do to mine, which is considerable.
  
  I do not allow *anything* near my "back door" for any reason, especially as, once something has been there, it has a very high chance of causing infection whereever it ventures afterwards.
  
  And dirty hands and/or fingernails don't go below my waist!
   
  
  
• Describe your common HIV/STD prevention procedures. What kind of tests and how often do you pass? Are the test results available upon request?
  
  I always use protection and test every month. I haven't had any issues thus far.
   
  
  
• What are your rates?
  
  This is answered in my ad.
   
  
  
• Are there additional charges for "extras"? If so, what are these?
  
  I charge a flat hourly rate (I don't offer half-hour appointments anymore, as they're just too rushed) because my rates are for time and companionship and whatever happens between two consenting adults during our time together, happens.
  
  I don't do the kind of things I would consider charging extra for anyway.
   
  
  
• What payment options are available? How would you prefer the client to pay?
  
  Strictly cash and at the beginning, so we don't have to deal with it later on.
  
  Having it in an envelope isn't the important thing--having the right amount is.
  
  Shortages can (and will) result in the client being refused service in the future.
   
  
  
• How would you prefer the money to be given? Please describe step-by-step payment procedure. What guidelines should a client follow to make the payment convenient and risk-free for you.
  
  At the beginning of the session, preferably in an envelope and *placed on a table or dresser.*
   
  
  
• If you accept credit or debit cards, how will charges appear on a credit card statement?
  
  
  I only accept cash.
   
  
  
• If a client decided to make you a present, what would you be happy to receive? What is your wish-list (maybe flowers, lingerie, parfume, music albums, books etc.)?
  
  Roses are always appreciated. They're simple and beautiful (and as one client taught me recently, they're a great addition to a session). ;-)
   
  
  
• Do you travel? If so, what does that involve on the client's part?
  
  I don't travel out of the city to see clients, nor do I provide travel companionship.
   
  
  
• Do you allow kisses?
  
  Only if the client's oral hygiene is good.
  
  Some men taste really good and I can't get enough of kissing them, but others have really bad breath (which, incidentally, can signal or preceed serious health problems) and I simply cannot even pretend to enjoy kissing them in that case.
  
  One thing really grosses me out is men who try to kiss me after DATY.
   
  
  
• If a client wants, will you engage in a role play? What kind of?
  
  Not applicable.
   
  
  
• How do you handle a situation where a client may want to get "wild and crazy"?
  
  
  I'm a mature escort—I don't do "wild and crazy." Neither do my clients unless they're intoxicated and if a client sounds intoxicated on the phone, I refuse to see him.
   
  
  
• Do you allow the clients to make photos or video recordings? If yes, on what terms?
  
  I never allow this on any terms.
   
  
  
• How do you handle first-timers or those who have limited experience with escort services? What are your suggestions to such clients to make your encounter the most enjoyable?
  
  I've had many such clients. I'm very gentle and understanding about this situation and I approach it by spending more time talking and getting acquainted at the beginning of the session for the sake of the client's comfort level. When the client is ready, I approach the intimate part slowly, reading the client's needs carefully so that they aren't intimidated. I feel it's very important to follow the client's lead above all else in this situation so they are comfortable.
   
  
  
• Have you ever had experiences with disabled clients? How do you meet their special needs?
  
  Yes. In most cases, they're aware of what their needs are, so listening is most important, as is remembering that each person is unique, so no one method works for everyone.
   
  
  
• What are your feelings about and attitude to participating as an escort in group parties, where several escorts serve several clients?
  
  
  My service is strictly one-on-one.
   
  
  
• What is your attitude towards tobacco, alcohol and drugs? Do you drink or smoke yourself? Do you allow the client to do it during your meeting?
  
  I don't engage in these things and I prefer that my client not do so during the session, particularly smoking, as I have asthma. I'm also very turned off--sickened, in fact--by the smell of cigarette smoke on a man's breath, hair & clothing. YUCK!
   
  
  
• What are the most usual types of "difficult" clients you meet? What would you like to warn them about in advance?
  
  I usually screen these types out on the phone because they can be very obviously intoxicated.
  
  Bottom line: don't call me if you're drunk or stoned because I won't see you if I have any concerns about my safety.
   
  
  
• What would happen, if at some point you or the client wished to stop the proceedings? How would you handle the issue of compensation?
  
  It would depend on the reason and how far into the session this were to occur.
  
  The thing to remember is that my rates are for time and companionship and if the session is more than 45 mins. over and it's not happening in spite of both of us putting in a good effort and the client decides not to proceed any further, I think I've done my part at that point.
   
  
  
• What are the things that excite you or appeal to you when on a "date"? What turns you on?
  
  It's difficult to pin that down. It often happens quite spontaneously for reasons I can't articulate, usually due to "chemistry."
  
   
  
  
• What are your sexual preferences? What kinds of activity do you enjoy most of all?
  
  You'd have to see me in person to get all the answers to this one. ;-)
  
  The things I enjoy most are being spoiled and pleasured by giving clients, particluarly the ones who want to give me a massage and are good at it. This is a rare treat and I love it!
  
  Sometimes it's the simplest, thoughtful little things, like guys who have air-conditioning in the summer (I don't), as long as it's not blasting like a freezer, and have their place warm in the winter (I chill easy). Clean linens, lightly scented candles, soft romantic music and other nice touches like that really get me in the mood.
  
  It's those things that make me think, "Gee, this guy really knows how to treat a lady."
   
  
  
• What are your turn-offs?
  
  Rudeness, disrespect, bad breath, poor hygiene in general, any amount of body odour, seeing and smelling smegma on an uncircumcised man (and don't get me wrong, I happen to think uncut is better due to the increased sensitivity, but only when taken proper care of), bad teeth, back acne, dirty fingernails, having my nipples twisted or pinched or my buttocks squeezed too hard, and men who drip sweat on me.
  
  I'm also fragrance-sensitive, so excessive application of colognes is a big turn-off.
  
  Things I will not do (or accept) include greek, water sports, butt play, anything bareback, BLS, BDSM, COF, DP, Russian, and CIM.
  
  See http://www.nationalblacklist.com/EscortGlossaryUnderstandingIndustrySlang.htm for definitions.
   
  
  
• What was your most funny sexual experience?
  
  I can't even think of it now, but I'm certain it was in my personal life and therefore, not for public consumption.
   
  
  
• What was your most funny escorting experience?
  
  You know, in the interest of discretion, I'd prefer to keep that to myself.
   
  
  
• What was your most odd or weird escorting experience?
  
  The guy who showed up in ripped and torn, filthy old women's clothing with a lace collar around his face like the front of a baby bonnet and didn't have any money with him. He smelled like he hadn't showered in days and dropped to his knees in front of me, running his hands up and down my stocking-covered legs and tried to get something going with me, begging for a freebie. I'm usually very nice, but he pushed my patience over the line, so I pointed to the door and yelled, "Out!"
   
  
  
• Hypothetical situation: your best friend, or your sister, or your daughter tells you that she wants to get into escort business. Would you encourage her to do it?
  
  I don't have a sister or a female friend, so that rules them out.
  
  I would never encourage one of my daughters to get into this business, just like I never encouraged them to have sex the first time, because they were too young in my opinion, but I certainly didn't leave them without advice on using protection either.
  
  You can't stop teenagers from doing what they're going to do, but if you love your children, you don't bury your head in the sand and pretend it isn't happening, you make sure they know how to keep themselves safe. That's why you make sure they know they can approach you and talk to you about anything from the time they're very young, without judgment, and get a straight, honest answer.
  
  By the same token, I wouldn't approve of them getting into this, but I also know I wouldn't be able to stop them if they were determined to. So in that instance, I would at least have to offer them advice to help keep them out of trouble.
  
  I highly doubt that any of my daughters would ever do this however, since they strongly disapprove of me doing it, though they love me unconditionally.
   
  
  
• If someone wished to become an escort, how would you recommend they go about it?
  
  That's not something I'm prepared to answer in a public area because it's not information that I feel should be publicly available.
  
  I'd say, e-mail me.
  
  That said however, for the record, I will not employ anyone in this business.
   
  
  
• What are your hobbies and passions, things you love to do and discuss? Music genres, movies, reading preferences etc.? What other talents do you have?
  
  I'd rather not say because some of my answers might allow men reading this to find me in my personal life since Regina is a small place, and I don't want the two to mix.
   
  
  
• What are your dreams, future goals and aspirations? Short and long term?
  
  See above.
   
  
  
• Anything else to add?
  
  Yes—on the subject of the whole "Do you offer GFE/PSE?" thing (because I'm asked this a lot when potential clients contact me).
  
  I feel that terms such as "GFE" and PSE" have become over-used and meaningless. Never-ending arguments abound on the definitions of those acronyms and, as far as I know, there has never been anything close to a consensus reached in the Canadian escort industry on the type of service or activities one can expect from the provider of either.
  
  Therefore, I feel it's in my own best interests to completely distance myself from attempts to confine my service to such simplistic and easily misunderstood labels and by extension, others' misinterpretations of them.
  
  One of the biggest misinterpretations circulated by clients is that a service provider offering GFE should be lax about safety.
  
  In other words, if an escort states that her service is "GFE" (so-called "girlfriend experience") a client may expect her to provide some or all of her services without protection because in his opinion, that is what a so-called "real girlfriend" would do.
  
  The fact is, girlfriends differ, so you can't define your expectations of a service provider based on YOUR ideal of a girlfriend. There are even girlfriends who won't provide any kind of physical intimacy because they're saving themselves for marriage.
  
  Incidentally, in reality, most porn stars ("PSE" = "porn star experience") don't use protection when they're filming/taping scenes—they just get tested routinely (some are actually couples in their private life).
  
  I practice safety in ALL the services I provide and no amount of money could persuade me not to. While I work in this industry, I'm responsible not only for my own health and safety and that of my family, but that of my clients, their families, the other service providers they visit and their families.
  
  That's a lot of responsibility and I feel that no amount of money is worth placing so many at risk.
  
  So please don't ask me if I provide GFE or PSE. I provide the best (and safest) service I can at one of the lowest rates in my city. My rates are low because I'm a mature escort who isn't greedy. And I offer very good value for the rates I charge.
  
  Besides, I'm far too unique to be limited to an acronym.
   
  
  

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