A client wants me to be exclusive to him
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12/28/11 13:57
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quote chantellelouise : About two years ago one of my clients started booking me on a regular basis. At the beginning of this year he suggested breast implants to me, which are something i had always thought about myself. He told me he would pay for them, and after a bit of thought i agreed to his offer. I'm currently engaged, although no date for marriage has been set, and i did originally lie to my partner and i told him that i was paying for them. It was only after having them enlarged i told him the truth. The client has now approached me with an offer to become exclusive to him, so i wouldnt see any other clients anymore and he would be my sole client. My partner thinks that if i accept the offer i would become the clients mistress / lover, he thinks it would make me more than just his escort. What do people think?? The client has offered a 3 month inital trial and money up front, and i am very tempted to give it a go. Thanks, Chan x Chantelle, is he willing to B exclusive to U or just using U as a sexual convenience? |
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12/29/11 03:06
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quote Indy Andi : .... So from my experience, and I'm sure that many people on here have their own opinions and experiences different from mine, but I would never do that again. Emotions are funny things and it's easy for either party to view the situation on an unclear level. The money was great and I loved the safety factor of seeing one client, but it wasn't worth risking my existing relationship with my husband or the security I already had established. Just my $.02. This is a good example of the result of an exclusive arrangement from a personal experience. It may be that some of these arrangements can work and work well, but as humans tend to invest a lot of their time in emotions....I feel that the above is a good thing to consider. And not only in regard to the topic of this thread but in general. Emotion often plays a part in any kind of arrangement and we have to be careful to read the signs as well as make sure that we don't lead anyone on accidentally. It is sometimes difficult to interpret a positive and outgoing social attitude. |
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01/03/12 01:42
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Morning!!
Firstly, thanks to everyone who has spent their time posting thoughtful responses to my dilema...... After agreeing on times and compensation i accepted his offer to become exclusive to him on an initial three month trial. We're going to review the arrangement every four weeks and if at the end of the trial we are both happy with how it has worked out then the arrangement will become more permanent. It began last week and so far is working great. Chan xxx |
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01/03/12 03:15
kansai-sayuri |
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I'm glad that we all may have helped out a bit in consideration of your exclusive offer. I hope that this is one of the cases where it works out and works out well for you! (^0^)
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01/03/12 05:51
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Hi Chantelle,
Thanks for your update, so you decided to give it a go?? Have you noticed any changes in the client since you became exclusive to him? What has your partner said about your decision? How are you finding the arrangement so far? |
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01/03/12 06:06
chantellelouise |
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I've seen a change in him 'in the bedroom', whereas he used to be rather meek and passive when he booked me previously, since last week when i became exclusive to him he is now dominant and very proactive, like a different guy!
My partner's concern, as i mentioned during my first post, is he believes that over the trial period i will naturally become more of a mistress / lover to the client. I keep on telling him that this will not be the case. I'm enjoying it so far, definately. It's a move away from the standard escorting and the client is treating me well, even buying me some super sexy lingerie and a couple of other gifts. |
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01/03/12 07:03
mattd1981 |
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quote chantellelouise : I've seen a change in him 'in the bedroom', whereas he used to be rather meek and passive when he booked me previously, since last week when i became exclusive to him he is now dominant and very proactive, like a different guy! My partner's concern, as i mentioned during my first post, is he believes that over the trial period i will naturally become more of a mistress / lover to the client. I keep on telling him that this will not be the case. I'm enjoying it so far, definately. It's a move away from the standard escorting and the client is treating me well, even buying me some super sexy lingerie and a couple of other gifts. I would hazard a guess that the change in him sexually is because he now feels you are 'his', that he owns you. It has probably given him a huge ego boost knowing you have accepted his offer and are now exclusive only to him, and thats coming through during sex with you. In a post a few weeks ago i did feel that by becoming exclusive to him it would make the situation more than just an escort / client situation, and i still stand by that. He wants you as his mistress, thats clear by the gifts and lingerie he is already lavishing on you - a week into it and he is treating you like his mistress, looking after you financially and materially.....the gifts will become more and more as the time goes on i would suggest. |
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01/06/12 21:41
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What happens to your engagement ? How does the man you planned to be with forever handle the thought of you being with anyone. Since he walked into your relationship not knowing what you did to make money this must be a lot to handle.
Having a man keep you sounds wonderful but at any time he can walk away. If he pays for your boob job in trade then instead of money you get bigger boobs and he gets your service. Be sure to figure out how many times or for how long you must be available. Now you need to make money to pay your bills. Kisses Haley |
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01/09/12 07:27
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quote haley : What happens to your engagement ? How does the man you planned to be with forever handle the thought of you being with anyone. Since he walked into your relationship not knowing what you did to make money this must be a lot to handle. Having a man keep you sounds wonderful but at any time he can walk away. If he pays for your boob job in trade then instead of money you get bigger boobs and he gets your service. Be sure to figure out how many times or for how long you must be available. Now you need to make money to pay your bills. Kisses Haley My relationship with my partner stays the same. He's always looked at my profession as just being a job. Granted, most men could not be with a working girl, hell even a stripper or topless model, and that's why the majority of WG's are single. However, my partner has always been fine with what i do for a living. If the client walks away from this exclusive arrangement then it would be no different to regular clients stopping booking girls or escorts struggling for bookings because of the economic climate we now all live in. The times and hours i see the client were agreed before i accepted the offer. If he wants to see me outside of those hours then he will pay accordingly. He paid for my breast implants, he didnt get free service by doing that. He paid as normal to see me. As i posted originally, he suggested the implants, i liked the idea so he paid for them, but nothing changed when he booked me. xx |
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01/09/12 08:00
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In fairness to the partner of Chantelle which we do not personally know, after all the things said here with her post, may we ask an update from Chantelle of or regarding the reactions of his benefactor, relative to the issue we have been discussing passionately here. This could be a good model learning from all of us!
-------------------- Plan your moves then move your plan...for moves without proper planning brings catastrophe!
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01/09/12 08:39
chantellelouise |
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quote dohm : In fairness to the partner of Chantelle which we do not personally know, after all the things said here with her post, may we ask an update from Chantelle of or regarding the reactions of his benefactor, relative to the issue we have been discussing passionately here. This could be a good model learning from all of us! Hi Dohm, Please can you explain again what you would like me to tell? Thanks xx |
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01/09/12 09:21
dohm |
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quote chantellelouise : quote haley : What happens to your engagement ? How does the man you planned to be with forever handle the thought of you being with anyone. Since he walked into your relationship not knowing what you did to make money this must be a lot to handle. Having a man keep you sounds wonderful but at any time he can walk away. If he pays for your boob job in trade then instead of money you get bigger boobs and he gets your service. Be sure to figure out how many times or for how long you must be available. Now you need to make money to pay your bills. Kisses Haley My relationship with my partner stays the same. He's always looked at my profession as just being a job. Granted, most men could not be with a working girl, hell even a stripper or topless model, and that's why the majority of WG's are single. However, my partner has always been fine with what i do for a living. If the client walks away from this exclusive arrangement then it would be no different to regular clients stopping booking girls or escorts struggling for bookings because of the economic climate we now all live in. The times and hours i see the client were agreed before i accepted the offer. If he wants to see me outside of those hours then he will pay accordingly. He paid for my breast implants, he didnt get free service by doing that. He paid as normal to see me. As i posted originally, he suggested the implants, i liked the idea so he paid for them, but nothing changed when he booked me. xx Chantelle, Peace and prosperity be with you! This post and info is I think would be enough to settle things in mind, relative to my latest post-reaction on your original post here. Good luck on your career and wish you trouble-free this 2012! -------------------- Plan your moves then move your plan...for moves without proper planning brings catastrophe!
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02/16/12 22:53
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I have been "exclusive" before. Don't do it. The term is "retiring a pro" in the hobbiest community. His part is to pay your living expenses and allowance but it comes at a price. You'll have to be available whenever he wants and privacy is not allowed, so your relationship will become very strained. Just keep client/provider relationships as is. I'll never make that mistake again....no matter how tempting. Just let him down easy by saying that you want things to remain professional because personal relationships go so wrong for you and you don't want that to happen... it works.
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02/16/12 22:56
Sexy Little Toy |
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quote sierramichaels : I have been "exclusive" before. Don't do it. The term is "retiring a pro" in the hobbiest community. His part is to pay your living expenses and allowance but it comes at a price. You'll have to be available whenever he wants and privacy is not allowed, so your relationship will become very strained. Just keep client/provider relationships as is. I'll never make that mistake again....no matter how tempting. Just let him down easy by saying that you want things to remain professional because personal relationships go so wrong for you and you don't want that to happen... it works. This is excellent reply to topic in this thread. A+! |
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02/17/12 08:26
Michael2015 |
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Why B 'exclusive' to any one client when there's MORE than enuff 'fun' for us all, whether hobbyist or escort?
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