Forum - Pain: Evolution, Survival, and Beyond

Here are four possibilities for people who would like to experiment with pain play while minimizing the chances of actually getting injured.

First, of course, is playing with a trusted partner, someone you know well who cares about you. But such a person also needs to be experienced and knowledgeable about certain techniques to play safely.

Another possibility is hiring a professional dominant. Just be sure to check that the person you choose has a good reputation in the kink community.

For people who don't mind (or even enjoy) playing in public, there are two more possibilities. One is to volunteer as the subject during demonstrations. Kink clubs frequently have educational sessions where experienced people demo certain techniques. They frequently need extra people to whomp on, set on fire, pour hot wax on, etc.

Finally, meeting a play partner for a session at a club gives you the advantage of having other people around, so you don't have to worry so much about playing with a new partner. BDSM clubs usually have safety rules and a Dungeon Master to watch over play. This gives you a chance to play with someone that you are not quite ready to trust your well-being to in private.

Just like any risky sport, pain play can be done relatively safely if you take precautions and plan ahead.