Forum - People acting out anger more during holidays.

I understand that many things happen during the year. I just always wonder why some people are so much angrier during the holidays and act out and kill one another over the smallest things during the holidays. Maybe they are upset over not having the money to take care of everything or it's probably a mixture of money,family problems,and just not knowing how to properly deal with the anger. It's very sad and my heart goes out to the victims and their families and the one's who are doing the acting out and killing too. I hope that everyone of them and others get the right counseling long before anything bad happens. It's so important to stay connected to the right people that can give good counseling and support during the hard times. I hope that you all don't have to go through any bad times during the holidays and even after the holidays too. Take care of one another and be at peace with one another.
Kisses,
12pleaseu

Great posting 12pleaseu. Some people are just very lonely and angry at the world. They don't work and blame everybody for their miserable life. Instead of looking into themselves and their inability to change their poor life they live in constant jealousy and anger.

Thank you very much. As I have said quite a few times before; I am on here to lift the spirits of others and to encourage others in life and in doing so; I help encourage myself as well during the hard times and even in the good times.I also am on here to do what I love doing and getting help where I need it. I always believe that whatever a person does or doesn't do to others; comes back to them. Some people may call it karma. Some people would call it the golden rule in life- do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I have lived with many regrets and hurts in life and I have learned it is never ok to intentionally hurt someone else out of anger,jealousy, or anything else. If someone hurts you,angers you,or if there is just jealousy and greed; people really should take a few moments to think about what they would do or say because what you do and what you say have a lasting affect on others and even on yourself. In retrospect; people who hurt others are really hurting themselves even if they don't know it at the time.
I've always heard while growing up to imagine myself in another person's shoes and I would think twice about what I do or say to someone else. You know, those people who told me were family members and a few good friends in the past and they were absolutely right. I myself should have listened to some of the advice because I wouldn't have suffered half as much in my life if I had thought about some of the things I said or did to others long ago out of jealousy,anger,greed, and hurt. I have learned having a kind and caring heart to everyone no matter who they are is rewarding in life and makes life worth living. Along with having a caring and kind heart comes responsibility and boudaries.
I just know that doing bad things to others out of anger,jealousy,hurt,and greed is unrewarding in life and brings hurt into my own life. May everyone be blessed and take care of one another!
Peace&Love,
12pleaseu

Preparing for holidays can be so nervous sometimes! Perhaps not every person can bear it unhurt. Wish all of them to be more Patient and Kind!

I try to relax on holidays as much as possible

As one wise person said long ago, If you dislike your work, just make your hobby to be your work.

P.S. I'm not sure that it's a proper quote but the main idea is said).

12pleaseu is right. Just acting out anger with no care about other people is a great mistake.

So good is the first phrase! 12pleaseu
you seem to be very faithful...i am even envious a bit

I know some psychologists advise not to keep the anger in but to express it asap. But I'm in doubt about it as some of them also seem to recommend almos complete neglect to other people, quite egocentric way of life... who knows?

Thanks kotikkk and everyone for your input. Yes, I believe that there is a right way to express anger as I've been through many times of counceling myself. So, I do know a good bit about that as well. I know that if a person is angry with another person and/or persons; that it is best to not engage in just acting out anger,hurt,jealousy,and greed immediately. It is best to take yourself out of the situation and/or away from the people that are bothering you. Then,deal with and think about what your really angry about and find a right way to express the anger and hurt without bringing anger and hurt to others around you. Then, a person can communicate the right way to the person and/or persons that they are angry or hurt with. I truly believe nothing good comes out of acting out of anger,hurt,jealosy,and greed because it never leads to any good solution. I look at it as an opportunity to grow as a person when I learn to communicate and deal with life as if my life depended on it; and it does. I guess you can call it a life worh living. I wish all of you the best in life and please be at peace with one another!
Kisses,Love,&Peace,
12pleaseu

Is it easy for you to take out yourself??? 12pleaseu I think it must be not handicapped.

Do you know anything about the self-training practices based on the self-observing?

Hi SexyTWO and Kotikkk! Yes, it can be easy to take yourself out of a situation and take a look at yourself and why you're angry. There are different ways of doing it though. I know that sometimes people are in situations and relationships that are hard to deal with; but there is a way for each of us all to take ourselves out of the situations instead of involving ourselves in engaging in anger,hurt,jealousy,and greed towards others. I have been taught to take myself away from those things by simply going off to another room and being by myself to recollect myself thinking about why I'm hurt,angry,jealous,greedy,or whatever is bothering me. Then, I have to take that 1st step in realizing that I have to deal with myself first before even dealing with anyone else. I do this by realizing and admitting my part in the situation and even admitting it to myself even before I deal with anyone else. Sometimes, some people want to always blame others when we need to deal with ourselves first. Then, and only then can anyone and myself as well; deal with any emotions with others as well. I have always heard that before I point my finger at someone else to judge or blame them; I must first look in the mirror and point my finger at myself. That saying is very true because I have learned that I have to deal with myself first and change the way I deal with the problems so that I can accomplish a true and good solution to the problems. Otherwise, I would be just another problem to myself and to others instead of a solution. It is really worth it too to take a look at ourselves so that our relationships in life are good ones. I hope that you all have great friendships in life and have great fun too!
Take Care&Kisses,
12pleaseu

12pleaseu, you're pretty good endowed with such essential knowledge!
Where did you read all this, if not a secret??? :)

Hi Kotikkk babe it wasn't what I read. It's my life that taught me the lessons that I learned and I have gone through a lot in my life that wasn't good. I have been through a lot of counseling throughout my life and had a few good people to help me along the way to learning how to deal with things in life. Anyone can have wisdom; but wisdom doesn't do anyone any good if the person or persons don't use the wisdom to change their own lives and the lives of others around them. I just learned to open my heart up to the wisdom that a few others and counseling throughout my life because what I was doing in life with my attitude towards myself and others wasn't working. As time went by, I learned more and more on my own about myself and used the wisdom that I learned and also the wisdom that I also learned on my own throughout the last 7 years and I am a lot happier and grateful in life.
Thank you very much for the compliment sweetie. I wish you the best in life!
Kisses,Love,&Peace,
12pleaseu