The month of February takes its name after the festival of purification that was celebrated in Rome on its fifteenth day. Some sources also quote that the name is given after a time period when sacrifices were made to atone the sins. February is a time of purification from the winter festivities and their consequences before the lighter parts of the year hit our lives. And with purification often comes looking inside oneself.
So how do you get integrated, at one with yourself, or all of a piece, your body and mind in agreement = congruent? Some handy tips are at my coaching blog
http://light-bringer-world.com/self-development-for-men

If you are, and have been for long, why? Is it your partner? Is it the difference in style preferences between you and your partner? Where's the hitch? ...

Dissatisfacti on is one of those emotions that we generally consider undesirable. It may sometimes live in the background. Often it creeps up on us when life seems to be going along swimmingly.
Declaring our dissatisfaction challenges us. We mute ourselves because we believe that admitting it means we aren't successful or it will be interpreted as whining or blaming (by others and by us). We should be happy and we interpret that dissatisfaction is the opposite of happiness. The problem with denying dissatisfaction is that it persists. We need a new approach to dissatisfaction if we want it to be of real value.

A reframing of dissatisfaction begins with asking what it is. Dissatisfaction can be tension anywhere in the body, a sense that something is incomplete or out of alignment. In our attempt to make sense of disappointment we take these cues and label them as a bad emotion due to the discomfort we would rather avoid. And often we do. We try to convince ourselves that we are not dissatisfied (denial), we distract ourselves with some form of excitement (shopping, television, food), or we blame our dissatisfaction on what we believe the source is (spouse/partner, job, money), and never face it.

But what if we considered that dissatisfaction (and every emotion) is there to inform us about our interactions with the world? What might dissatisfaction be trying to tell us? My proposal is that it is trying to point to something important to us and something that could be improved. What else might dissatisfaction be pointing to? That there is a conversation missing for us? Or that we need to make a request of someone?
What would it take to change our relationship with dissatisfaction? If we hold dissatisfaction as a negative emotion, shifting to the belief that dissatisfaction could be a helpful emotion would be much better. Then we could get curious about what it is trying to teach or point us toward. It would allow us to hold it in a lighter fashion and in a more matter-of-fact way: Oh, I'm dissatisfied. Maybe it's trying to help me create a life more to my liking.

Then what? How can I shift from dissatisfaction to satisfaction?
- Notice the sensations, whether they be in the body, emotions, or thought.
- Name them dissatisfaction. Declare it. Claim it. Own it.
- Accept it. I'm dissatisfied.
- Answer the question: What conditions would allow me to say I'm satisfied?
- Make a plan to fulfill those conditions of satisfaction.

Here's an example:
I notice an unpleasant tightening of my stomach every time I think about sex with my partner/spouse. Instead of enduring the discomfort, I tell myself (or someone else) that I'm not satisfied living with this discomfort. There must be a better way. I accept it. I acknowledge it. I'm not going to continue this way. I decide that I always want to have sex that is enjoyable for both of us. Alone or with help I create a plan to achieve satisfaction.

Moving toward satisfaction does not guarantee we will arrive. What often happens is that as we approach what we had believed would satisfy us, we realize it is not the end of the journey. And sometimes we make another choice, which is to live with dissatisfaction. Although the price of something I purchase may not completely meet my conditions of satisfaction, I may simply choose to accept it. This is something to consider in other areas of life such as sex, relationships, and work.

How is this acceptance different from complacency or resignation? In acceptance we're open to the possibility that at some point it may be different. When we live in resignation, we're denying that possibility. In complacency, we're unwilling to make the effort to achieve satisfaction. So, is dissatisfaction a bad emotion? Can we learn from it and use its energy to build a life more to our liking? Frederic Nietzsche claimed that there are no facts, only interpretations. More at http://www.light-bringer-world.com/coaching-men

When calling around for a massage treatment, how do you know which one to choose? The facts are exposed at my massage blog.

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.. how do men COMPLAIN about these women's greed on one hand and SUPPORT it on the other?

Let all be revealed at http://light-bringer-world.com/gifts-high-end-companionship

.. how does our redefinition of prosperity reflect in our career and lifestyle changes, and our gift giving habits?

Get the revelation at http://light-bringer-world.com/prosperity

Does it pay to be honest where money is concerned? If it does pay, does it pay more or less than it would not to be honest? If you choose to be honest, are you being stupid? Silly? If you told your friends about your honest reaction in a particular situation where money is concerned, would they judge you as crazy? How would you react in situations which give you the option to be honest or not to be honest? What would you do in a situation like the one described here?

I invite you to continue reading at http://light-bringer-world.com/companion-toronto-experiences

Albeit many people have told me that they wouldn’t live in the States even if one paid them, I’ve NEVER heard anyone say anything bad about Canada. So why is this country enjoying such a lovable status? Why is the Canadian passport going to have greater value than even the British one in 10 – 15 years if not earlier?

You'll only find the answers if you set aside 4 - 6 minutes for continuing to read my Travel Companion's Blog
http://light-bringer-world.com/canada

Why do many men come out of intimate encounters feeling more miserably than they did when they walked into them? What's the value in ditching the autopilot existence and adopting one of being present in the moment?


Read it here http://light-bringer-world.com/attention

The title is pretty self-explanatory, so if you wish to get the story, get it at

http://light-bringer-world.com/online-identity-impersonation

Does anybody know why so many Indian men, all under the age of 35, are calling me from this site?

I kid you not when I say that since I came to my Toronto base, I've had two calls a month [in average] from young men from India calling me up saying they saw my profile on this site. I've always patiently talked to them to see where the conversation would take us and in all cases the conversations would average 40 minutes. I also found a pattern in these conversations: they start with seemingly genuine interest and always progress to irrelevant personal questions. And half of these callers even called me back the next two days after the first call got interrupted and cut off. Two of these men have openly asked me whether I'd provide them with permits to move to Canada to which I said that I was not an immigration lawyer!

Now seriously, if you're one of these men reading this, get real and stop this - I always spot your silly tricks for miles, I just don't let you know and act as if nothing happened. It's not fair to waste my time and again, I'm not an immigration lawyer. Besides, Canada doesn't need immigrants of low intellectual quality!

And if you're not one of these men but are still reading this, then watch out for these rascals and if you cross paths with them, tell them to get lost.

So hey, what’s better about life in Canada than life in London UK? Many people ask me this question, so now that my website is finally enjoying its new face after years of mess and now that I’m motivated to blog again, I’m inspired to share my insights. My answer starts here: http://light-bringer-world.com/toronto-london